Dating-How to Survive Meeting Her Friends

Meeting your girlfriend's friends can be a stressful situation no matter how long you have been dating. While you may perceive your relationship as going perfectly, it is important to understand that meeting her friends can either make or break your relationship.

It is important to remember that her friends are very important to her and that their opinion of you may effect her opinion of you. By making a good impression on her friends and gaining their trust will ensure that they don’t do anything that can be detrimental to your relationship.

By having confidence and introducing yourself to your wife or girlfriend’s friends is the first step to survive meeting her friends. You already realize that these people are important to them so go ahead and take the initiative and introduce yourself. This is critical because it lets them know right away that you have confidence and that you are not intimidated by them. It may also impress them by letting them know that you are interested in getting to know them and that you aren’t simply putting on a front because your wife or girlfriend is insisting that you meet them.

When you have become acquainted with her friends, be sure to remember their names. If you aren’t good with names, use whatever association tricks you have to and make sure you don’t mix up their names later on in the conversation. They may all dress and act alike but being unable to distinguish them sends the message that you aren’t really interested in getting to know them. Calling one of your girlfriend’s friends by the wrong name can be almost as damaging as calling your girlfriend by the wrong name. Not only will the friend be insulted and no longer think that you are worthy of their friend and your girlfriend may be hurt that you couldn’t even be bothered to remember her friend’s name.

Another tip for surviving meeting the friends of your wife or girlfriend is truly involve yourself in their conversations instead of just being there and trying to stay out of the conversation. Like taking the initiative in introducing yourself, this also conveys the message that you are interested in getting to know them.

Taking an active part of the conversation demonstrates that you are listening intently and that you care about what they have to say. Your girlfriend will appreciate the effort you are making to get to know her friends and more importantly her friends will not have a reason not to like you, at least initially.

It’s important to not ignore your girlfriend when you are with her friends if you want to survive meeting her friends. She may want you to take an interest in her friends but if you go too far and alienate your girlfriend you may doom your relationship. Getting along with her friends is one thing but if she senses you are flirting with them, she may become jealous and it can cause problems in your relationship.

Another tip for surviving meeting the friends of your girlfriend is to listen carefully in your initial meeting and try to retain as much information about them as possible. After the meeting when you are alone with your girlfriend make a casual comment or ask a question relating to your earlier meeting with her friends. This will let your girlfriend know that you really were listening and that you have a genuine interest in befriending her friends.

Your girlfriend’s friends will play an important role in whether or not your relationship with her survives. Women value the opinions of their friends greatly and if you don’t make a good impression on her friends, they may convince her that you aren’t right for her. It’s important to make a genuine effort to get to know her friends because their opinion of you can either make or break your relationship with your girlfriend.