Dating-Online Dating Communication Skills: 5 Ways To Attract Your Mate Through E-mail

For online dating to be successful, you need more than just a great picture to reel in your dream date - you need to have good communication skills! For example, when e-mailing a prospective date, you need to be able to use words to leave a great impression. You have to be very careful about what you say and how you say it. Remember, once you click the send button, your mail is gone forever. There is absolutely nothing you can do to retrieve it and there is no way for you to take back what you have written.

Also keep in mind that the recipient of the email will not only read your words as you typed them, but they will also develop their own impression of what you wrote mixed with the emotion that you encouraged. Therefore, you must pay very close attention to how your words may make another person "feel". Watch your manners and practice good etiquette.

Here a few simple, yet powerful suggestions that you can apply:

1. Lighten up! In other words, don't begin your email with a wedding proposal. Although your main objective may be to find that special someone, you do not have to take things too seriously right away. You may ask important questions, but after you pass those initial deal-breaking questions, take it slow, keep it carefree, and just have fun.

2. Avoid talking about controversial issues in the beginning. These include religion, politics, global warming, etc. Get to know that person a little better and wait for the appropriate time to bring up those subjects.

Some topics, such as emotional problems (past or present), are too sensitive to discuss through email, especially if you're just starting to get to know someone. Wait until you meet that person, and then you can discuss about sensitive issues.

3. Keep things short. Do not bore your prospect by writing a 2-page essay on dog training even if that person you are talking to is a vet, I can assure you that he or she would much rather know things about you rather than your dog. Once you have built a better connection with that person, then you can talk about how well your dog is trained and the tricks he can do, etc.

4. Always make your prospect feel comfortable. If you need to ask a hard question, do it lightheartedly with a good sense of humor so the person won't feel that he or she is being interrogated. For example, if you think that your prospect is older or younger than how she appears in his photo, say something like "You don't look 40 at all, maybe 35 at the most. I can understand if you're not comfortable about telling me your real age. You can tell me next time, or you can send me a photo of your last birthday cake and I'll just count the candles."

5. Above all, stay honest, both with yourself and to the other person. Keep in mind that if things go in the right direction, this person can very well be "the one".