September 2, 2007
Dating-Should You Consider an Internet Romance?
Joan's quest to find a suitable partner for marriage seemed impossible. She has tried the singles scene at the local clubs but found it to be uncomfortable and her social circle seemed to consist of more married friends with a shrinking amount of singles.
Although she had heard of internet dating and saw the ads, she had hesitated to take what she imagined was a rather drastic step. What would her experiences be like? How would she find someone online? What were the risks?
If you are in this situation then you've probably considered trying online dating to meet someone.
Our lives are increasingly dependent on technology as opposed to face-to-face contact. It is not at all surprising that millions have already tried online dating as a way to find a relationship rather than waiting for a chance meeting.
But what are some of the findings as researchers spend more time analyzing the behavior of online daters?
In a study reported on CBS News, 15% of Americans with internet access have visited an internet dating site. 27% of them were 18-29 years old so obviously online dating is a popular pastime.
The same study showed that 33% of unmarried internet users thought that dating online was a safe way to meet people although 34% acknowledged knowing someone who had a bad experience.
In another study reported by BBC News, online dating was seen as a way for women to feel empowered in relationships. The conventional inhibitions that they had in face-to-face relationships were replaced by a more up front and in-control attitude when given the anonymity of the internet. Could this improve their chances at finding a perfect relationship?
Professor Helen Petrie was quoted in the BBC interview as stating "There are people who lack interpersonal social skills and would find it very difficult to meet people in bars. They may find it easy to meet in an internet room, but they still have the problem of meeting them face to face and if they have gone too far with the internet relationship, they may find that traumatic."
The truth is, many individuals find the anonymity of online dating encourages a certain amount of exaggeration or lying. While some claim that we always hide things at the beginning of a relationship, trying to put our best foot forward, the internet makes it easier to hide such things as facial expressions, income, marital status and even criminal records.
So while you may find, like Joan, that finding a relationship in the 'real' world is difficult - if you are still considering online dating it is wise to use caution and common sense. Be careful what you say about yourself and try to verify as much information as possible before meeting or personally contacting anyone you've met online and never meet them alone.
Filed under Dating Sites, Online Dating by Edited by Jack Strom
Comments on Dating-Should You Consider an Internet Romance? »
The most important thing is to choose a dating website that caters to the right demographic. If you are over 50, looking for a serious relationship, then join a site aimed at older singles that encourages committed relationships. It is usually free to join, so you can always try several services before you decide on the one you like best.