Dating - How to decide -Bad Boy or Good Guy?

In the old movies, it was easy to tell the good guys from the bad guys. The good guys wore white- hats, suits & smiles while the bad guys were all black-hearted with capes sneers. Unfortunately, today’s dating world, you can’t always discern who is a good guy and who’s a bad boy in disguise. Try to save yourself a lot of misery& disappointment by knowing what signs and traits to recognize.

The Good Guy is portrayed as virtuous, stable, honest and trustworthy – he’s a man of his word to you and to everyone else.

The Good Guy is focused on you - he cares about what you care about, even if it means taking you to the newest chick flick when his favorite superhero is on the screen next door. He appreciates the cookies you baked- even the burned parts! He brings flowers for no reason and remembers your birthday. He plans fun& thoughtful dates and trips, though rarely on the spur of the moment (since spontaneity is difficult to organize). Though this also means he is sometimes viewed as dull and prudent.

Stories and television glorify the Bad Boy as a misunderstood man who secretly, deep down cares for the girl he continually disappoints and hurts.

The selfish Bad Boy is focused on doing for you just as little as possible to soften you up and to get what he wants. If he brings flowers, it’s because he heard someone mention that it’s Valentines and he stole the roses from a cemetery on the way to your house. He’s always spur of the moment with grandiose ideas that are crazy and totally unpredictable (and often regrettable). He isn’t dependable and runs on his own time- but the Bad Boy manages to make such believable excuses, that you want to overlook his immaturity& unreliability.

Based on what values you consider important in a relationship, you might go for the Bad Boy or the Good Guy and maybe you’ve tried them both. Some women feel that the Bad Boy is more exciting and adventurous. Other women find comfort and security in the Good Guy’s honesty and genuine caring.

Good Guys certainly are better at long-term relationships than Bad Boys. And Bad Boys are better at keeping you guessing for the indeterminate period they stay around. There are women who will argue for both. The question is, do you want a man to play with or to marry?